In Defence of (Defensive) Mediators

Ask most mediators of a certain stripe and they will be only too willing to tell you the story of long ago when they left their law firm or maybe even chambers to become a mediator…. that giant leap of faith, that alarming drop in revenue.

Some will have run away from practice only to later stumble over mediation. Others will have run, arms outstretched in an embrace, towards mediation. And it usually shows in the sort of mediator they become in the years that follow.

But all mediators of this genre have a certain sensitivity in common.

So it was well into the afternoon of a mediation this past week, one of the lawyers who I had last seen when I was at my firm in the 1990’s said to me; ‘So Geoff, when did you give up real law?’

At this point, two answers are possible.

One for a valued and hopefully future consumer of my mediation services; ‘Ha! Spot on Brian – I haven’t opened a law book since 1998’.

But it was the other, giving life to that sensitivity all these years later, that sprang from my lips;

Well, you know Brian, there’s a lot of paddling under the water for us mediators. I have to be able to understand, very quickly, how you twist your square causation argument into the round hole of the law – and test you on it without, of course, putting you on the spot.

Before I can do that though, I need to actually know the law and have a good eye for legal BS so I can ask you, in the nicest possible way, to explain it to me again so others at the table just might pick up the soft spots I got, but they missed, on your first run through.

Sorry Brian, but it felt good.

Brick Court in the Pacific

Brick Court mediator, Geoff Sharp, has been teaching mediation at the University of the South Pacific in the Cook Islands this week courtesy of Cook Islands Law Society, New Zealand Law Society and Massey University. The course was held at the USP campus on the island of Rarotonga in the Southern Group of 15 tiny islands […]

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John Sturrock Features In The Times

In these turbulent times, some might be interested in John’s article published in The Times newspaper yesterday…

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Sophisticated Mediation Advocacy : “Out Loud Adverse Advice”

When I am mediating I often encourage counsel ‘to be brave’. Easier said than done I know, but bravery can take many forms in mediation. From counsel backing their own advice when the easier road would be to settle – to something a little more counter intuitive and possibly risky – like strategically signaling vulnerability […]

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J. G . Mean and (Brackets)

My mediations are haunted by a fellow called J. G. Mean who just keeps cropping up. I can be as creative as I like but all too soon JG is there in the room. You encourage some venting, explore various forms of reality, re-frame a little, season the whole boiling with some cognitive dissonance and stand […]

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